"Accept other believers whose conscience is more delicate, without arguing over 'disputable matters'. For instance, one person believes it's all right to eat anything. But another believer with a sensitive conscience will eat only vegatables (a vegan? pb..). Those who feel free to eat anything must not look down on those who don't. And those whose consciences don't allow them, must not look down on those whose consciences do, for God has accepted them. Who are you to judge someone else's servants? They belong to the LORD, so let Him judge whether they are right or wrong...." (Romans 14)
Over the years since we started Harvest, at least a few times a year, the subject of 'disputable matters' comes up. We expect it to, as we have in ONE church so many people with so MANY different backgrounds.
Thus, different CONSCIENCES.
It is amazing how much our family and church background affects us. About half our church has no problem with moderate use of alcohol, about half has strong convictions against it. Likewise, we have found many offended by the style of music we play, as to them, it is not 'church music'. We respect their consciences in the matter and in order to not further offend them, offer assistance in finding a church more to their preferences if it is that distressing to them.
But make no mistake about it: It's all about the background you came from.
I could go on and on in the matter.......make-up....movies....hair length....hair dying??...:)...tattoos??....body piercing??.....dresses...dress length??....plastic surgery a sin??......birth control????....dancing???......
Seriously,..... the list is endless and the variety of places our conscience falls just as endless.
Because of this, some years ago we took extensive time to draw up a document we call the Harvest Lifestyle Statement. We read thru this entire statment in each of our Newcomer's Classes.
Why do we take the time to do this?? Because UNITY is everything to church health and this single area is the "Atomic Bomb" that usually destroys it.
I have cut and pasted it here, as I think you may find it enlightening.
To more of Christ's love filling us,
PB
Harvest Lifestyle Statement
Watch your life and doctrine closely... for if you do, you will save both yourself and your hearers.” (I Tim 4:16)
It is our desire at Harvest Church to take this charge seriously. In our effort to build a Biblically-functioning, outward-focused, Christ-centered church, we feel it is important to define our position concerning certain issues that can, if left unaddressed, create controversy, bringing damage to what God is seeking to build.
In everything, it is our desire to ‘major on the majors, minor on the minors’, and to recognize what truly the essentials of the Gospel. We liken this problem of addressing "disputable matters" to the early church’s approach to dealing with the inclusion of the Gentiles (whose customs created tension with Jewish customs). In addressing these matters before the Lord, we as leaders must struggle with what to “lay upon” those who are coming to the Lord from a thoroughly post-Christian society. We must ask, as they did then, What in fact is the LORD requiring of them?, versus our possibly imposing older church cultural traditions from the broad variety of our own various church backgrounds (Acts 15).
Many things the church at large strictly prohibited 100 years ago (cards, theater) are now openly acceptable by the majority of Christians everywhere. A few of the examples of “disputable matter” issues today are PG and R rated movies, stock market involvement, saving, investing, religious holiday involvement, alcohol consumption, card playing, dress issues, women in ministry, use of various Bible versions, theater, tattoos, piercings, dietary disciplines, health clubs, plastic surgery, …
The list is almost endless, depending on the religious background that has trained our consciences. Many of the issues that are disputable today will be laughed at 50 years from now, much like card playing and movie watching, largely ‘taboo’ by the majority of Christians a generation ago.
In deducing the following statements, the following core passages were deeply studied by our Pastoral Team and the following conclusions made. We encourage all who seek to join to Harvest to do likewise:
Romans 14; I Cor 8; I Cor 10:23-11:22
1. We must begin with a deep respect and fearful understanding of “sin”- what in fact, constitutes “sin”? Is the matter in question a matter of conscience or of sin? Where is the line drawn to where the matter becomes sin?
2. Biblically, it seems the matters Paul described as “disputable matters” are not in themselves matters of the Kingdom of God in people’s lives, and therefore a matter of personal conscience. (see Rom 14:17, I Cor 8:7-13, I Cor 10:23-11:1)
3.Biblically, they become an issue (entertainment, sports, eating, drinking, etc..) when done in excess and a worldly spirit of non-restraint that has no concern for the conscience of others (love). This the Bible deems not only sin, but idolatry (gluttony, drunkenness, greed, etc..) I Cor 10:14, Col 3:5
4. As with all other matters of conscience (Rom 14), great care must be given to cultural and personal sensitivities (the backgrounds and cultures of the people we are with). This the Bible calls “walking in love” (I Cor 13). To practice any “freedom” in the presence of those whose consciences may be violated is insensitive, inconsiderate, offensive, and immature, walking in selfishness, rather than walking in love and thus fulfilling the law of Christ.
5. Concerning ‘disputable matters’ (Rom 14, ie, movies, tv, drinking of wine, etc…), we must take great care in guarding our lives. Because self-deception is at the very root of our human nature, we must continually ask ourselves, “Is this wise for me to do?” All of us have different backgrounds with different ‘weaknesses’ and propensities. It is vital that we know ourselves and not trust our flesh. Our deepest desire must be to stand before the Lord free, clear and blameless.
6. Likewise, the Bible makes it abundantly clear that we are to refrain from judging each other in matters of conscience that are not clearly laid out in Scripture, each giving an account of himself to the Lord. (Rom 14:1-12)
7. While recognizing the freedom of individuals to make responsible choices before the Lord based on scripture and the leadership of the Holy Spirit, we DO NOT CONDONE unrestrained license in any of these matters, hoping to avoid the necessity of dictating prohibitions beyond the clear teachings of scripture.
8. Our ultimate goal is to raise up mature believers who truly seek the scriptures over all matters, walking in a deep reverence for God and His Word, who are wise regarding themselves and their own unique predispositions, who live in true love and consideration for their fellow man, free, yet under the Law of Christ and the governance of His Lordship. To sum it up, the key governing factors that we see concerning all ‘disputable matters’ are:
1. Intention….What is the ‘spirit’ this is being done in?
2. Sensitivity...Am I considering how this might affect others?
3. Responsibility..Is this wise for me?
4. Yieldedness…Am I open to the voice of others in this?
5. Thankfulness..Can I see this, eat this, drink this and give thanks for it?